I want to share a simple article about break ups and relationships..
THE ART OF LETTING GO . . .
We often fool ourselves and say that it is love. And when it’s gone, we end up being lonely. So how are we to know that it just wasn’t so, and we just have to let each other go? Why do we have to part when the love is still there? Why do we have to suffer? Why do we have to cry when someone bids us goodbye? Why do beginnings have to end? Why do we have to meet that person only lose them in the end? There are the questions that are left unanswered, words left unsaid, letters left unread, poems left undone, songs left unsung, love left unexpressed, and promises that are broken. In relationships, one of the hardest thing to do is saying goodbye and letting go. It is like breaking a glass because you’ll never know when you’ll be able to pick up the pieces again. More often than not, those who go will not feel the pain of parting, it is those who are stay behind that suffer because of the memories left of a love that was not meant to be. We will later realize that the precious moments you shared together were only stolen moments.
At the beginning and at the end of any relationship, we are embarrassed to find ourselves alone. Unfair as that may seem, but that’s the way love goes, that’s the drama, and part of the risk of falling in love. After all, nothing is constant but change. Everything will eventually come to its end without us knowing when, or how, or why. And we have to forget not because we want to but because we have to.
In letting go, sorrows come not as a single spy but in battalion. It seems that everywhere you go, and everything you do, every song you hear, every turn of your head, every move of your body, every beat of your heart, every blink of your eye and every breath you take will always remind you of him. And it feels like you have been stabbed with a knife.
Funny how the world becomes so bare when in fact only person is missing. Imagining that there are billions people on earth and yet you feel lonely and empty without him by your side.
I don’t know of it is worth calling it an art, but letting go entrails special skills combine with considerable space and time. And they would say that time will heal all wounds, yet it also take a litte part from us. Acceptance also plays a part, because after all not every thing you wish will come true, not all love stories will have their happy ending. Sometimes we have to let go because of circumstances that are beyond our control. We have to suffer if it would mean the happiness of the other person. We have to cry temporarily to let go of all the pains we feel inside.
Every beginning has it’s end. It’s over and he’s gone. But life has to go on, goodbye does not always mean forever, there will always be a place and time where questions will be answered, words will be spoken, letters will be read, poems will be recited, songs will be sang, love will be expressed and promises will be fulfilled… somewhere, somehow, someday…
You don’t realize how much you care about someone until they don’t care about you.
Posted by: Pulse Editor on: January 19 2009 • Categorized in: Literature
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